Top 5 Reasons Why Do We Cheat on Someone We Love

We often think that infidelity only occurs in broken, unhappy relationships. But the truth is that infidelity can happen to everyone - even the happiest of couples! For this very reason, it is necessary to understand some of the reasons why people cheat so that you can address these problems early on and avoid infidelity in your relationship.

Top 5 Reasons Why Do We Cheat on Someone We Love

Here are 5 reasons even the happiest people cheat:

1.  Neglect

Believe it or not, infidelity is often traced back to loneliness. This feeling often arises out of neglect and can lead people to feel overlooked and undervalued. When this happens, people might seek someone outside of their relationship for romantic validation. Being honest about your needs (and encouraging your partner to do the same) can prevent these feelings of neglect altogether.  

2.  Self-Esteem Issues

People are more likely to cheat when they have underlying self-esteem issues. This is because they often need validation, praise, and attention. And if they’re not getting it from their partner, they might wander off and find someone who can give it to them. Having regular emotional check-ins can help you and your partner feel validated and secure.

3.  Unmet Needs

Unmet demands are frequently an outcome of poor interaction in the bedroom. Our sexual desires over time and over the course of our relationship, meaning that they won’t always match up to our partners’. If the passion isn’t there, one person may turn to infidelity to satisfy their unmet needs. Luckily, a little creativity and exploration can make all the difference.

4.  Thrill-Seeking Behavior

Some people cheat because of deep-seated thrill-seeking behavior. Knowing that something is ‘wrong’ or ‘taboo’ is exciting to them. Navigating this behavior is difficult because it has nothing to do with the state of the relationship itself. To tame this behavior, you and your partner can try different thrilling kinds of sex or opening up the relationship.

5.  Anger

Studies have shown some people cite anger towards their partner as the reason for their infidelity. Explaining that it acted as a way to ‘get back at them.’ To avoid this scenario, openly discuss any anger you have about your partner in a mature, communicative way so that negative feelings don’t fester. 

Understanding both you and your partner’s needs in your relationship can help everyone feel supported and less likely to seek these things outside of the relationship.